Why I am a “Disgusting” Pervert

…(It’s because I’m a man).

I was in a grocery store parking lot a while back, mid-2010’s. It was near the start of summer, and a hot day. A Saturday morning, the parking lot of this famous grocery store was packed, and finding a spot to park a challenge.

I always go to the right side of this lot. The double-wide section of parking spots are then there to my left, and I look for the nearest spot I can find that isn’t designated for handicap or pregnant women.

On this day there was a line of several cars going down this way to try to find a spot. Because of that, and a line of starting and stopping cars near the front of the store due to shoppers coming/going, I came to a standstill at times as drivers waited for both cars backing out of parking spots as well as customers walking nearby.

As I waited, a woman in her mid-20’s was putting full grocery bags in her trunk. Medium height and a fit build, she was wearing loose-fitting short shorts that went to the top of her thigh, and from a standing position just barely covered the bottom part of her butt.

She was then bending over into the trunk to push some of her full bags further in, to make more room for the rest of what was in her grocery cart.

When she did this, her shorts rode up her butt a bit, and for any straight and single leg man…this was a sight that was pretty much impossible to not notice.

Even riveting, would be a good way to describe it.

A person then exited the passenger side of that car, approaching the rear-pun, to assist her with loading the groceries.

This was a similar woman of a similar age, and noticed that I was staring at her (friend’s?) legs and butt as the groceries were loaded.

We were about 30 feet from each other, the lot being fairly large and roomy.

I then noticed that she was noticing me, and she stated, with a fairly vile delivery:

“You’re disgusting.”

Ten-plus years ago I would’ve then cowered in my seat, head down, and felt ashamed.

But I’ve come to the point, as I think many men have, of not being willing to tolerate society slamming us for something that comes completely naturally to us any longer.

So I looked around for children…I would not have done this if children were nearby…as I moved my car up as traffic continued, and stuck my arm out the window, directing a vulgar and very intentional middle finger at her.

…and I kept it aimed at her as I continued to drive, to the notice of several customers nearby.

The woman yelled some expletives my way, I twisted my finger up in the air even more as an expression of “F-U” back…

…and am not the least bit proud of any of it.

…But-pun would do it again in the same situation.

The thing is, if I’m bit, I bite back ten times harder.

I guess my excuse will be that that’s what happens when you grow up with a severe stress disorder and eventually find your way out of it. Ya kinda find this other side of you that is willing to fight, and fight hard if attacked.

Here’s the gig:

A man needs air.

A man needs water.

A man needs food.

And close in line behind that, is almost a “need” for sex.  Or perhaps more accurately, a desire for the female body.

Nature built us this way to ensure the species would be perpetuated; a strong drive and desire for the female body.

And on behalf of perhaps billions of men, we are sick and tired of being slammed for having this natural desire.

It’s like bashing a homeless person for drooling over the window display at the bakery, filled with cheesecake, chocolate cupcakes, cinnamon rolls, cookies and pies.

How he is NOT supposed to look at and want those things.

Us men do hunger for women’s bodies and we’re sick of apologizing for it. So many of us, such as myself, no longer will.